This was forwarded to me today. It fit my mood, which is manic and must get things done and OMG the life clock is ticking!
Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine. I got to thinking one day about all those people on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back.
From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible. How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word 'refrigeration' mean nothing to you? How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched 'Jeopardy' on television? I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, 'How about going to lunch in a half hour?'
She would gas up and stammer, 'I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain'. And my personal favorite: 'It's Monday.' She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.Because Americans cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!
We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college. Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer.
One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of 'I'm going to,' 'I plan on,' and 'Someday, when things are settled down a bit.
When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.
My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.
Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to... not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting? Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask someone 'How are you?' Do you actually hear the reply? When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, 'We'll do it tomorrow.' And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say 'Hi.'
When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift.... Thrown away.... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.
So, friends, if you got a really bad diagnosis, what you would do? What would you change about your life? Nothing? Everything? I am grappling with that this week (ahead of time of "news"... that's how I roll). Please share, I want to know.
Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine. I got to thinking one day about all those people on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back.
From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible. How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word 'refrigeration' mean nothing to you? How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched 'Jeopardy' on television? I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, 'How about going to lunch in a half hour?'
She would gas up and stammer, 'I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain'. And my personal favorite: 'It's Monday.' She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.Because Americans cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!
We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college. Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer.
One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of 'I'm going to,' 'I plan on,' and 'Someday, when things are settled down a bit.
When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.
My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.
Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to... not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting? Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask someone 'How are you?' Do you actually hear the reply? When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, 'We'll do it tomorrow.' And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say 'Hi.'
When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift.... Thrown away.... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.
So, friends, if you got a really bad diagnosis, what you would do? What would you change about your life? Nothing? Everything? I am grappling with that this week (ahead of time of "news"... that's how I roll). Please share, I want to know.
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That was a great thing to read. What's funny is that 2010 is just that for me - I am committed to it being more about taking risks, doing things I have never done, and just enjoying it all. I think after years and years of living on auto-pilot that 2010 is the year I really start experiencing life. That's why I am training for a half-marathon, applying to be on The Amazing Race, and just looking for opportunities to be out there with my friends and family. Hubby and I are doing more things together alone as the kids get older and that is very special time that we have neglected through the years.
Well as they say...live like you are dying!
I often use the expression 'Life is uncertain, eat dessert first!'
If I were you I would do everything and nothing at once. I would keep doing everything I love doing but would start doing things I wish I did. I would stop doing things that don't matter. My husband lives a lot this way. It frustrates me. I'm a organization freak. But the truth is, he is having a better time and I'm spending more time worrying about what he's not getting done than I am getting anything done. Great post, great thoughts!
Great post...very inspirational! I think I'll go call my 95 year old grandma!
Thanks for this post. I've had a lot of 'big questions' in my mind lately and this is the kind of stuff I need to read to get me moving towards the stuff I really want. At this (somewhat crazy) moment that is to start up a rural cohousing /ecovillage /homestead community and go live there and be a 'farmer'. :p And I might just do it.
If I got a bad diagnosis, I would spend as much time as I could with my husband and my kids and I would pray a lot for a miracle. I would believe that I deserve that miracle because my family needs me. I would only spend time with positive people. I would do everything the doctors said to do and I would plan to beat it. I hope you are planning to beat it too. I believe that you will.
Please know that I am thinking of you often, praying for your good health and believing in that miracle for you.
((HUGS)) to you my friend.
This year after receiving my second diagnosis of cancer which has Dr.s and nurses giving me sad smiles and talking about how I might not be part of the grim statistics. I have decided to live my life like there is a tomorrow.
Do I spend more time with my family? Yes. Do I linger longer in hugs good bye? Yes. Do I make a point to tell everyone that I love them?Yes but I am still hunting for the perfect set of red heels that will make my feet look fantastic, even though I might have to wear a hospital gown with them.
Somedays courage is all that I have left that can't be taken away by a disease.
Hang in there!
My life seems to go in cycles. I'll have periods of "quiet" and then suddenly, I don't have time to breathe I'm so busy. I always have time for other people, but I really need more of that time for myself. That's why I started taking bagpipe lessons last year. It's something I am doing for myself alone, and in the process I've gotten to meet a lot of new people, which has been good for me because IRL I am pretty antisocial most of the time.
If I got a bad diagnosis I would spend every minute that I could with my hubs and lil' dude and I would hope that I would never stop praying and fighting I'm sorry about your sister and I hope everything is ok with you!
Ohhhhhhh, it was forwarded to you. Sorry, not enough caffeine today. Ah ha ha. That and a baby waking up at 5:30. What up with that?
I think I would consciously simplify my life and spend time only with people who energize my soul or make me laugh. They are my dessert. Actually, that's why I already do! Oh, and maybe I would tell the government to go pound salt on an outstanding penalty.
The short answer is that I'd get my ducks in a row (control thing), find a way to communicate what I want for my children (to have integrity and to know that what they do has an impact on others), love on my children and husband (because they make me happy), and make some outstanding memories, even if they're memories of little things (and here comes that word, "bittersweet").
Praying for strength, comfort, and peace. And for a "good diagnosis."
My Grandpa always told me to eat dessert first, from the time I was a very little girl. Whenever we were out together, he'd ask me what I wanted for dessert and we'd confuse the waitress by ordering that right off.
When I was a little older, he told me it was because when you've lived through a war (he was in Hawaii when they bombed Pearl Harbor and went on to fight in France) you don't take a single day for granted. He died when I was 14, but I'm so grateful he took me for ice cream, my appetite for dinner be cursed.
I think I too easily lose sight of that. Thank you for the reminder.
I don't think I would change too much. Certainly contacting and visiting with loved ones that I don't speak with often would be on top of the list.
Jenny...you know my heart is just throbbing for yours.
I don't know what I'd do. Right now, at this point in my life, I'd ditch the world and spend every second with E and J. I wouldn't even do anything special, I'd just be with them every second I could. And I'd pray for peace to accept whatever was in store for me...as I constantly do for you.
Much love, friend....xoxoxo
Short version already offered. Long version on my blog. Prayers offered.
Once upon a time I was diagnosed with breast cancer...and once upon another time, my first husband was killed in a plane crash. I KNOW you are supposed to live everyday as your last, but sometimes I just forget.
Thanks for reminding me...again.
Once upon a time I was diagnosed with breast cancer...and once upon another time, my first husband was killed in a plane crash. I KNOW you are supposed to live everyday as your last, but sometimes I just forget.
Thanks for reminding me...again.
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